Many people think of forgiveness as the act of letting go of anger toward another person.  However, forgiveness isn't always about the person being forgiven, and probably more often we need to forgive for our own health.  When we carry around anger and resentment, which we all do, it tends to affect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually in a very negative way. You begin to realize, usually later rather than sooner, that your anger doesn't necessarily affect the object of your anger at all, but affects you a great deal. Instead of suffering from the inability to forgive (can't sleep, focus, or relate to others as well), think of forgiveness as a gift to give yourself and try to “let go” by reframing your thoughts with some of the following:

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another, it is to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.

To "let go" is to fear less and love more.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To "let go" doesn't meant to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.